The Book - "Dr. Collin My Son Is Gay"

Dear boy, listen:

For happiness or unhappiness, every man is born for himself.

 Alcestis: Told by Euripides

When I first started to script down all my emotions and fears, I called the work "The End." To me it was the end of everything - my son is gay. How could I go on living with the knowledge that my son is gay, it was the end for me. Then time passed the confusion like a veil of mist lifted and the true self in me had a chance to look deeper, to discover the true meaning of being gay.

Dr. Collin advised me to visit a gay club, to get to know the people behind the epithet “gay.” I did not go to a gay men’s club but instead visited a lesbian club. I had to find out for myself what it means to have a sexual relationship other than with the opposite sex. I remembered the movie “Dead Poets Society” I had to climb onto that table to look at relationships from a different perspective.

 What fun I had. I had learned that being gay or lesbian did not change the “who” my son is, all that needed change was the “how” I looked at it.