The Book - "Dr. Collin My Son Is Gay"

Dear boy, listen:

For happiness or unhappiness, every man is born for himself.

 Alcestis: Told by Euripides

When I first started to script down all my emotions and fears, I called the work "The End." To me it was the end of everything - my son is gay. How could I go on living with the knowledge that my son is gay, it was the end for me. Then time passed the confusion like a veil of mist lifted and the true self in me had a chance to look deeper, to discover the true meaning of being gay.

Dr. Collin advised me to visit a gay club, to get to know the people behind the epithet “gay.” I did not go to a gay men’s club but instead visited a lesbian club. I had to find out for myself what it means to have a sexual relationship other than with the opposite sex. I remembered the movie “Dead Poets Society” I had to climb onto that table to look at relationships from a different perspective.

 What fun I had. I had learned that being gay or lesbian did not change the “who” my son is, all that needed change was the “how” I looked at it.

My Son is Gay!

"Dear God, why me, why me!"

This is what I said in private, on my knees, after my son told me he is gay.

Today, two years after he told me, I say - "Thank you God, I was chosen."

It was not an easy journey, but it was a journey that I took on and in the process, I learned about myself, my son and the creation of God.

It was a journey I took on with the help of Dr. Collin, my computer and a lot of flowers with bright colours and the ever changing cycle of new life, and new hope.

I had to work through the "me" that I thought I was: the best mother a child could have to the "me" I became with guilt about my parenting skills and the notion that my child possibly was molested as a 11 year old boy.

I had to work through my relationship with my husband, I told him only a year after I have heard that my son is gay about the gayness.

To help me on this peregrination towards understanding and acceptance I wrote a book called: "Dr. Collin......my son is gay." Every thought, every fear I felt, I spoke about and I wrote it down. Dr. Collin was non-judge mental and I, the "me" I was, died. I had to die in order for my son to live. All my preconceived ideas and ideals about my son had to die so that new realities could surface.

Currently I am in the pre-sale phase of my book; the book is available at Strategic Book Publishers on the following website created for me by the Publishers. The book can be purchased from the site but it will only be available after I have sold the first 100 books.

I do believe I can help any parent, sibling or gay/lesbian child through this period of self-acceptance. My book definitely explores all the issues concerning: parenting involvement; sibling acceptance; religion and the emotional factor of self-acceptance.

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